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What Women Want
Chapter 2
The other important character trait women look for can be summed
up with the word "stability". This includes everything
from financial to emotional stability in all aspects of the word.
For example, if you are unable to deal with your past baggage, such
as a messy divorce, alcoholism, or being in debt, she will not be
interested. Now, this doesn't mean you can't have encountered past
difficulties, but have you emotionally and physically dealt with
your problems before entering a new relationship? No woman wants
to be your psychiatrist. Don't use someone else as a crutch because
you aren't strong enough on your own. It is a different matter when
you have been a couple for a long time and a difficult situation
arises; in that case your mate should be expected to be supportive
of you. What I am referring to here is a casual date, or new couple
where he (or either party for that matter) is not in a state of
self-sufficiency and is looking for someone else to solve their
problems for them. Stability is when you've got your head on straight,
you know what you're doing and where you're going.
Another very basic thing women are looking for in a man when they
first meet are similar interests, or at least a similar lifestyle.
If you are attracted to a woman that has a career, is taking night
classes and likes to party all weekend, and you prefer to go to
work, come home, and watch TV on your couch, chances are that she
won't be overly interested in you, as that's not how she lives.
If you are a fitness-buffed health freak, and she likes to eat out
and doesn't enjoy sports or fitness, it probably won't work. This
isn't to say opposites don't attract, but there has to be a common
denominator here for things to work out for any length of time.
You must be living comparable lifestyles for you to even bother
entering into a relationship. It is best not to pretend to be interested
in things that you hate, or pretend to be something you're not,
as in the end you are still who you are and the other person will
be angry when your deception is ultimately revealed.
A personality trait that is greatly admired by most women is a
good sense of humor and overall ability to have fun. Who wants to
go out on a date with some fuddy-duddy that doesn't laugh at your
jokes and is an all around bore? Being entertaining doesn't come
naturally to everyone, but cheerful, happy people usually know how
to have a good time. Other aspects of life are all about being serious
and responsible, so it sure makes a difference when you can laugh
at the day's mishaps with someone, or at least be cajoled out of
your gloomy state of mind. Life is too short to spend it with a
grouch.
While these characteristics are widely accepted as being desirable
by women, it is also worth mentioning that what a woman is looking
for in a man is different at 18 than at 45, and also can differ
through various stages of life. A younger woman, or a woman recently
divorced often places more importance on fun and looks, while a
single mom will probably find stability the most important trait.
As we age and change throughout our lives, what we feel is important
changes as well.
So, providing you make an effort to take care of your physical
appearance and wear clothes that are ironed and match, you will
get noticed. Once you are out on a date, if you listen to what she
says and are fun company, she'll go out with you again. Once you
get to know her a little and she sees that your life is somewhat
in order and you like doing similar things, you're all set!
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