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Keeping Your Sex Life Fresh

Is the honeymoon period over and your sex life lost that same zeal and excitement it once had? Maybe you have reached a plateau in your relationship where things just keep moving along without either of you really putting a whole lot of thought or energy into doing the little extras. If this is the case, don't spend a whole lot of time worrying about it, but it is imperative that you act on it in fairly short order. Relationships tend to go in cycles where it becomes more or less fascinating to be with one another This is often largely dependant on what else is going on in your lives and how much time and effort you are exerting to make it all work. Although ups and downs are normal and can be expected, you may find that if you're on one of the downward trends, you need a to put in a little additional effort to get things back on track, your sex life included.

Let me begin by saying that if you and your partner are perfectly happy with your sex life, then don't feel like that there is a requirement to change it. This article is directed more towards people who are looking for something different. Although some people need to have broad sexual variety, some people don't harbor as strong a need for diversity and if you and your partner are content with the way things are going, then don't concern yourselves with it! Sometimes the slant popular culture takes on is that if you don't have sex twice a day, standing on your head, then you are probably a boring or bad lover - which is ridiculous. As long as both you and your partner are on the same wavelength, and are happy about it, then there is no problem and you have a healthy sex life. Do what feels right for you, not what someone else says you should do.

If on the other hand you are interested in spicing things up a little, you may want to investigate the following. To start with, vary the things that you do traditionally during your sexual encounter. For example, if you usually engage in foreplay followed by intercourse, try foreplay followed by oral sex to completion. Alternately, skip the foreplay altogether and just have intercourse. Not every sexual interlude need culminate in intercourse; it may be a nice change to have only oral sex or manual stimulation, just for something new. Another variable that you may alter is your style of foreplay. If you usually don't focus on this area, try kissing, touching and teasing each other for an extended period before moving on to something else. You may also alter the manner in which you usually touch your partner. For example, if you often find yourself touching your partner in an aggressive, harried fashion, try slowing it down and being extra gentle and soft or vice versa. This will result in a completely different mood during lovemaking, which in itself is a nice change.

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