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Getting that First Date
Chapter 3
If you get a response like, "I'm bowling that night",
or "I don't drink coffee", don't give up in despair. Suggest
an alternative night, or venue. This lets them know that you want
to spend some time with them. If their response to this is positive,
but they truly can't, they will invariably make an alternative suggestion
ay this point.
Here is a subtle, and somewhat cheeky technique that I quite like.
Wait until the conversation is really going well, and there is some
obvious enthusiasm there, if not for you in particular, at least
for the subject at hand, and then while you politely excuse yourself
to another pressing engagement, you can suggest that you'd really
enjoy getting a chance to finish your conversation another time.
You can then offer your telephone number, or ask if you could take
them out for a coffee "after class tomorrow" or whatever
the situation may allow. Clever eh?
Are you shy? Do you find it difficult to do this sort of thing?
Fine. That doesn't condemn you to a life of solitude and celibacy.
You'll still have to buck up and step up to the plate if you really
want to ask this person out, but you can turn your shyness into
an asset. After initiating the "conversation", and there
is no escaping conversation guys, you might just stumble out with
an honest proclamation that you are really quite shy and find this
difficult, but you don't want to miss this opportunity to ask if
you two could go out for a coffee/lunch/drink sometime. Lots of
women are really into shy types, and anyone would be impressed with
your courage and honesty. Hey, shy, brave, honest men are not in
over-abundant supply.
Well folks, that's about all I can tell you. Not that there aren't
super-duper, failsafe secret ways to ensure that women are powerless
to resist you…but I can't tell you about those. Its one of
those non-disclosure things I signed back there a while ago. My
lawyers are duking it out with their lawyers right now, but for
the time being, you're on your own.
Good luck though, and relax - all the really good stuff starts out
scary.
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