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The Art of Seduction
Chapter 2
Related to listening, is all around attentiveness. Did she drop
her fork on the floor? Signal the waiter for a new one immediately.
Is her wine glass almost empty, top up her glass or ask her what
else she'd like to drink. Order it for her when the waiter comes.
If you notice that she has goose bumps when you step outside, offer
her your coat. In general, pay attention to what is going on and
try to offer what she needs in advance of any request. Take charge
of the evening without being a control freak. When you tell her
that you know a lovely place to go for a drink afterwards, pay attention
to her facial and body language as to whether she wants to go for
a drink or not. Be the decision maker for the evening, but certainly
allow her to express her desires. Remember, seduction is the art
of drawing another to one's self by way of irresistible power and
magnetism.
Now if this isn't enough to remember, you have to make her feel
special. This doesn't necessarily have to do with the expense of
the evening. If she had previously mentioned a particular food she
liked, perhaps go to a restaurant that serves it. If you remembered
that she likes a particular song, play it in the car, or request
it at the bar. Making someone feel special has a lot more to do
with remembering what is important to someone else, than spending
a ton money. Additionally, be sure not to check out the other women
in the room, have eyes only for her and she'll feel special.
Aside from listening and paying attention, you'll have to remember
your own body language. Sit and stand up straight with good posture.
Lean forward slightly in your chair as opposed to leaning back and
keep your body language open and positive. Try to be close to her
if possible, sit close to her with your legs slightly touching,
hold her hand across the table, or take her arm if you are walking.
Of course, if you sense that she is uncomfortable with this, do
not persist. Read what her body language is saying to you.
When you are trying to be self-confident and decisive, try not
to be overly aggressive. This can be a thin line, so it can be tricky.
Most women find high-pressure tactics are a big turn-off, especially
as a prelude to sex. You may alienate her and have a date that ends
early, as many women feel threatened by aggression and will try
to escape. You are trying to seduce her, not sell her a car. The
idea is to make her succumb to the great feeling of lust that she
feels for you, which can only be achieved by you also helping her
to feel confident and beautiful - thus all the listening and attention.
With the right woman, you will certainly succeed in your plans
to seduce if you put some effort into it. Keep in mind that you
should be having fun; it's supposed to be something pleasant, not
hard work. If you relax and enjoy yourself, the magic spell you
cast is sure to work its charm.
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