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Body Language
Chapter 2
Learning to recognize and interpret the physical signals that women
send with their bodies will greatly enhance understanding of their
feelings toward a man.
Upon entering a room where men are present, a woman will often
signal her desire to meet someone with a wide ranging glance around
the room, typically lasting five to ten seconds and noticeable by
its scope, which attempts to take in the widest possible array of
potential subjects while not specifically targeting any one in particular.
Shortly after this first assessment glance, she may offer two or
three targeted glances of short duration at specific men, lasting
less than three seconds on average, again with a noticeable rotating
of the head from between 25 to 40 degrees. This second type of gaze
might persist for some time alternating with pausing intervals.
If her gaze is returned, she may engage in a third type of gaze,
lasting longer than three seconds, and possibly followed by a smile,
slight pouting, a head toss or other such gesture.
If seated, a woman will typically have arranged herself in such
a way that her foot and hands are directed toward the man she is
interested in. She may also present her neck to him, inclining her
head at an angle to expose the neck.
Several grooming gestures can also reveal her interest. The classic
application of lipstick is a common example of a grooming gesture
that implies interest, and one that is reported to be arousing by
up to 80% of men. Another example that can be quite literally revealing
is the slight hiking up of the skirt. A woman may do this quite
involuntarily and direct it at the object of her interest. If another
man's attention is attracted inadvertently, she may quite suddenly
pull her skirt back down, possibly followed by a pouting gesture.
During conversation a woman will have a very open body posture
with someone she finds appealing, and a closed one if not, possibly
folding her arms or otherwise blocking the undesired attention.
In a favorable situation she will maintain eye contact, lean forward,
and nod or shake her head in agreement with what is being said to
her. She may use exaggerated hand gestures, especially an open presentation
of her palms as she speaks.
A wide range of cues ranging from incidental contact, to intentional
caressing may also occur. Tapping of the forearm is typical of this
incidental, though not accidental contact. She may ask him for a
light for her cigarette this way. The 'breast touch' is a very overt
type of this sort of contact, whereby a woman deliberately contacts
a man with her breasts. She may just tap him on the back or shoulder
as she passes, but the contact with her breasts as she passes is
intended to titillate. (No pun intended) Sometimes this contact
lasts for several minutes at a time. Foot to foot contact, as well
as knee touches and thigh contact are also common.
Caressing may include stroking or pushing back his hair, or a facial
caress. It may also take the form of a friendly, back or torso caress,
and even on occasion the ubiquitous but always memorable bum pat.
You may think while reading this that only a fool would miss these
blatant and obvious clues that a woman was interested in him. But
remember, there may also be a campaign of misinformation running
concurrently. The verbal information stream may well mask what the
body language is saying. We have a tendency to be more perceptive
of other people's failure to read these obvious signals, being removed
from the obligation to maintain the verbal part of the exchange
ourselves. We've probably all missed these cues before and been
told so by a friend, or had to tell a friend the same. So if you
were about to sign up for Portuguese lessons because you figured
Brazilian girls were the last ones who understand the language of
love, try Kinesics first. Ciao.
For a thorough investigation of this subject matter, why not pick up: The Complete Idiot's Guide to Body Language
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