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Sex Over 60?
Chapter 2
Arthritis and joint pain can be problematic, but needn't prevent
anyone from enjoying satisfying sex. Through simply experimenting
with different positions and taking a pragmatic approach to these
concerns, this need not become an impediment to satisfying sex.
In fact, it might be argued that the same pragmatism with which
we must all approach safer sex in the post AIDS world, can be brought
to bear in solving this type of problem. Creatively addressing these
concerns can lead to general stimulation of the imagination, which
in turn usually results in better sex! If you don't think you're
up to the sexual gymnastics you might have once felt you were expected
to perform, why not try relaxing with a nice warm bath first, and
let yourself enjoy a warmer, slower paced, more intimate experience.
It needn't even result in orgasm to qualify as great sex!
Remembering my own earlier youthful explorations into the realm
of physical pleasure, I can honestly say that many of my fondest
sexual memories were of a non-orgasmic nature. My lover and I still
enjoy slipping in and out of consciousness together while fondling
and cuddling in a semi-conscious, sexual haze. It's a handy technique
you may be familiar with if you have ever raised children.
Part of the problem our society has in dealing frankly with the
subject of sex in later life, is that there are so few positive
images for us to focus on. Pornography is virtually always depicting
young people thrashing, grinding and pummeling their way to Olympic-performance
orgasm upon orgasm. Most people don't actually perform or even bend
that way to start with. If it seems to you that those starlets are
getting younger and younger each year, it's not just you. The growing
preoccupation with younger and younger sexual characters in pornographic
fantasy is real, growing inversely with the average age of the population,
and points to an unhealthy attitude in general about aging I think.
Aging is kind of like masturbating. We all do it; we just don't
want to be seen doing it.
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