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Laughter in the Bedroom
Chapter 2
Sometimes it is outside influences which are responsible for causing
the laughter. Have you ever had the bed break in the middle of intercourse?
After you are done being startled, it is pretty funny. What about
when the phone rings, you don't answer it, and the machine comes
on revealing your mother droning on in the background about whether
or not you want the recipe for the dinner she made last time you
were over? On occasion, the cat or dog may stray into the room and
feel neglected usually feeling jumping up on the bed its only recourse.
As a general rule, the more obscure the location of your sexual
interlude, the more likely it is to have something unplanned happen
that can result in hilarity.
Laughter in the bedroom has many positive benefits, the first and
arguably most important being the reduction of inhibition. We all
know that many people could stand to be a little more adventurous
in the bedroom! If you are laughing and having fun, you develop
better rapport with your partner, creating an environment wherein
you feel more at ease and can say and do what you will without fear
of reprisal. If a person normally is too shy to tell their partner
what they enjoy, or what they may wish to experiment with, it makes
it much easier for them to communicate needs in a lighthearted fashion.
Humor is also a good way to test unknown waters without fear of
having your partner think you are somehow perverse. If you suggest
something you'd like to try in a silly, joking way, you can gauge
your partner's reaction and if it is indeed negative, you can say
that you weren't being serious.
Another benefit of laughter in the bedroom is that it takes the
pressure off our attempts at being perfect. Let's face it, not many
of us are. We may feel we have physical flaws that we are self conscious
about and laughter draws the attention away from such imperfections.
We may normally be embarrassed by the sounds or faces that we make
during sex, but if we take a more flippant approach to things, our
partner will be laughing with us rather than at us. Let's face the
fact that sometimes we are not very smooth and may do something
a little gracelessly. Who cares, it's funny! It would be boring
if we were flawless all the time and there has to be some benefit
to our little imperfections.
As an alternative to always striving for those perfect, serious
love scenes where everything goes exactly the way you'd imagined,
I highly recommend lightening things up a little. Be a ham, and
laugh your partner into the mood, especially if your partner is
tense, or has had a rough day. You will establish much better communication
with them by putting yourself in a setting where you may express
yourself physically and verbally without restraint or fear of reproach.
So remember, exercising your humor muscles is additionally very
effective in helping to strengthen the bond between you and your
partner and key in maintaining a lasting relationship.
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